Dear Abby: Man Continues To Miss Online Dating


DEAR ABBY: I am a man in my forties who has searched for love all my life. One factor that made it difficult is my height. I am 4′11 ″. What makes it almost impossible to find someone is that the profiles of online dating sites always ask for my height. Unfortunately, being extremely petite is not a characteristic that women look for, so while I can spend over an hour filling out all of this profile information, the system invariably returns a non-match for me. Do you think I should lie about my height, and when I meet the person, I hope they can give me a chance? Or am I destined to spend my life alone? – CALIFORNIA SHORTY

DEAR SHORTY: Lying would neither be helpful nor appropriate, because then the person you meet would be inclined to wonder what else you were lying about. My dear mother once told me, “Smart women measure their men from the eyebrows up, not from the hairline down,” and that’s right. Some of the brightest and most charming men I know are short, and that doesn’t make them any less attractive. You may be luckier if you are introduced to women by people who know you – relatives, friends, friends of friends, etc. You can also do an online search to see which sites perform better for smaller people. Some dating sites and apps even cater to smaller people.

Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips.

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DEAR ABBY: I am the grandmother of eight wonderful grandchildren, whom I love very much. There is, however, one aspect that I hate: sleepovers. My husband doesn’t mind that I’m stuck with endless loads of extra laundry: towels, washcloths, sheets, blankets, quilts, etc. He works ; I’m disabled. When I tell him I can’t handle all the extra laundry, he asks, “Do you want to change places?” Am I wrong to think that he doesn’t care about me when he encourages those dreaded sleepovers? – OVERWRITED IN THE WEST

DEAR OVEREXPERIENCED: Your husband seems to prioritize his entertainment over the effect it has on your body and your stress levels. Draw the line. It is not a question of “exchanging places”. Tell him you need a helping hand! If he wants the kids to go, he’ll have to do more of the laundry because you can’t handle everything anymore. Older grandchildren should also help before they leave. Stick to your guns, as stress is known to make frail people sick.

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DEAR ABBY: I recently attended my first rodeo, and during the singing of the national anthem, I realized I had the “stinky eye” of a teenage couple. I had not taken off my straw hat because I had been taught that a woman’s hat was part of her outfit and that it was not necessary to take it off on such occasions. I am the wife and daughter of veterans, and that is also what they understand. Have the rules changed? – “HATTY” IN THE MIDWEST

DEAR “HATTY”: According to, trendy hats can be left on when the national anthem is played and when the United States flag is paraded. However, if the person is wearing a baseball cap, members of both sexes should remove it with respect.

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Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at or PO Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.

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