Gays describe times they found people they knew IRL on Grindr/Queerty
Grindr isn’t always a grid of strangers – once in a while you’ll see a familiar face or a name you recognize!
On the r/askgaybros forum, gays share the times they found someone in their life offline on Grindr and other dating apps. Awkwardness abounds, as you can imagine, although some of these tales did have “happy endings”.
We’ll let these guys’ stories do the talking (slightly edited and abbreviated), but let’s just say some of these encounters would make an HR Rep scream.
“My big cousin. Disclaimer: Most of our family members knew he was gay. … But one day I found him there, leather pants and high heel boots.
“I met a friend from a social club through a Danish gay dating site called boyfriend.dk. I wrote: ‘Oh hi! I couldn’t help noticing you. I won’t talk to anyone else. I just wanted to say hi,” because he was locked up. I was invited when he got married to her husband, and it was amazing.
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“A fraternity boy who was in my RA’s friend group in college. He passed me on Tinder after he came to our floor to hang out with my RA, and he saw me. We We were already sexting at that time. To this day, he’s still with different girls. I don’t know if he’s finally come out. I don’t care enough to ask.
“Four or five years ago I ran into this guy I went to elementary school with. (I was 20 at the time.) He was in my second grade class and was making fun of often about me because ‘I acted like a girl.’… We corresponded and talked, and it seemed like he had no idea who I was. Didn’t remember me at all. It was hot to make this guy who was homophobic towards me years ago moan and tell me he wanted it harder.
“I’ve met some two-in-the-closet people on the Grind. With the last one, I was slightly insulted because the guy doesn’t even know we work together. Like, man. Go on.”
“I found a cool guy I had known since high school through an NSFW Snapchat group. I hadn’t shared my face in that group, and when we chatted in DMs for a bit, we finally shared our faces. He didn’t respond after I sent mine, and eventually he left the group and blocked everyone including me I guess once he recognized me in a group anonymous, he got scared and ran away, haha. Chill man, though. Wish he had stuck around.
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“A classmate from high school messaged me on Grindr. … After chatting for a bit, he said something like, ‘How have we both lived in the same town our whole lives and we haven’t Ever met? You’re, like, the perfect guy. He sends a face pic and I’m like, ‘I hate to burst your bubble, but we definitely met. We were going to school together.’ I sent him my face pic, and he immediately said, “Please don’t tell anyone”, and he blocked me, lol.
“Yeah, and he wanted to connect. I was like, no, that could complicate things. We have a mutual friend, and our friend does not know him; however, he knows me. I just don’t like drama, so that was a tough pass.
“I returned to my hometown eight years ago. I ended up meeting a straight, married classmate who responded to an ad I placed on the old Craigslist with his real email address, which was his name. We have become good friends and spend quality time together almost every week.
“A guy I still consider a friend, who had moved. I saw him on Tinder not too long ago but never hit on him, although I think we would be a cute couple. I mean, two Kyles who like to cook would be a dangerous thing. I’ve spoken to him once or twice in the last year but haven’t said anything to him. Next time he’s in town, maybe I’ll have a few beers with him and see where it goes.
“An elementary school bully. … He terrorized me all through elementary school. Luckily, he moved after elementary school. When I enrolled, after high school, I saw him. I immediately recognized and blocked it. It’s been on my blacklist ever since, and I can’t see myself removing it. Yes, he’s physically attractive, but he’s a shitty human being, and I respect myself.
“This just happened to me. My company brought all of our office workers nationwide to a sunny town 1,000 miles from my home for a summit. I was on Grindr and Scruff, making the most of every free moment….Someone who met my criteria but had no photos was only 25 yards away!I headed for the elevator hoping to close the distance, when around the corner the co-president of the company (who’s dated and married to a man) comes in, also on the phone, looks up at me, turns a funny shade of gray, straightens up, greets me, and we walk downstairs in silence. I have pictures on my Grindr profile, even face pictures. And my, uh, request is very direct and specific. So if he looked at me, he knew now what kind of bitch I am.
“I matched with my manager at work. We both laughed about it and never talked about it.