Mutual admiration forged their immediate bond
Days after Louis P. Di Cerbo slipped Dr. Robin G. Stafford into his world on the Bumble dating app in July 2020, they had a broad phone conversation that turned into a discussion of their professional accomplishments. .
“She has been featured in Crain’s Chicago Business,” said Mr. Di Cerbo, 62, of Dr. Stafford, who is the chief dentist at Howard Brown Health Center, a nonprofit health care organization in Chicago. which focuses on serving the LGBTQ community. .
But Mr Di Cerbo, a lawyer, did not wait for Dr Stafford, 62, to tell him. “I immediately looked for her,” he said with a laugh.
“I had to do due diligence,” added Mr. Di Cerbo, general counsel and chief compliance officer of Matrix Global, a Chicago-based company that provides technology and consulting services to the storage industry. of energy. A graduate of Hamilton College in Clinton, NY, he received a law degree from Boston University.
Dr Stafford, a graduate of the University of Illinois at Urbana, Ill., And an MD from Southern Illinois University in Carbondale, Ill., Said she was just as impressed by Mr. Di Cerbo.
“He was very good looking and extremely intelligent,” said Dr Stafford, who had been single for 13 years before they met. “We realized right away that we shared a lot of passions,” she added, “such as cooking, fitness, travel, clothing, art and jazz.”
Both had been married before. Dr Stafford, who divorced her first husband in 2008, described the experience as “traumatic”, adding that some of the pain it caused had subsided when she “immediately connected. “to Mr. Di Cerbo.
Mr Di Cerbo himself had suffered when his second wife died in May 2019. His first marriage, he added, “was brief” and “ended in divorce in the 90s”, did he declare.
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“Robin is a survivor, like me,” added Mr. Di Cerbo. “I had to deal with the death of my wife and she had a very difficult divorce. Although we are survivors, we are both very strong, and this is the very foundation of our relationship. “
Shortly after their phone conversation, they set up a first date at a Chicago restaurant.
“The moment I sat down next to him I felt very comfortable, very comfortable,” said Dr Stafford. A mother of two grown children from her previous marriage, she added, “He came across as a very family oriented person, just like me.” (Mr Di Cerbo said Dr Stafford “was so family oriented that I met his brother on our third date.”)
After their first date dinner, Dr Stafford and Mr Di Cerbo strolled to nearby Wicker Park where they sat and chatted some more.
“We both came out of our first date convinced that we had met our life partner,” said Mr. Di Cerbo.
The couple dated for about a year before getting engaged on July 23, 2021. In September, Dr Stafford met Mr Di Cerbo’s parents.
” In September, at our first dinner with my parents, who are both 91 and live in schenectady, ny, my dad couldn’t help but ask Robin about his dental practice, ”said Mr. Di Cerbo, whose mother, Rose Kimura Di Cerbo is of Japanese descent, and father, Louis Robert Di Cerbo, Italian-American. Dr Stafford’s parents, Evelyn H. Gay and Robert L. Gay, are deceased.
The two were married on December 4 by Reverend Richard Kirchherr at the First Congregational Church of Western Springs in Western Springs, Ill., Where they live. Sixty guests, all vaccinated, were present.
“I’m so glad we met, we’re a modern triracial couple,” said the bride, who is African American. “There are so many possibilities now for us to consider moving forward, and together in life.”