OPINION: The downside of dating with age | Opinion
Meet used to be so simple. However, it started to look like a laborious, complex and confusing part of life.
In high school, it seemed like almost everyone was dating someone. It was easy to find a person with whom we got along well and with whom we shared the same passions or the same values. Dating then wasn’t such a far-fetched idea. However, as you get older, dating in college or as a young professional can sometimes be the complete opposite and almost tedious.
After school and venturing into the world of work, dating seemed so incomprehensible to me – I didn’t even try. I guess when we get out of school or move to different states, our circle of friends shrinks over time, which makes it a little harder to be exposed to new people.
As I got older and decided to go back to college, I definitely noticed that my options were very slim again. Being a non-traditional student and also not from North Carolina, my group of friends is very small. This circumstance limits my ability to meet new people or potential partners unless I go downtown as much as possible. Personally, it would be exhausting to do so. Maybe at the time it seemed like a good option, but honestly, I’d rather meet someone on a bus than in a bar. Moreover, it is very rare.
So if meeting someone at a bar isn’t high on the list, why not meet someone online?
Using online dating apps, and dating as you get older in general, is an endless game of trying to meet new people to see if anything can turn into a relationship. Some people make it seem so easy to find their partner while us singles find it hard to go on a second date.
Don’t get me wrong, some people find their person on dating apps, but for others it can be infuriating. Sometimes I feel like I’m rolling dice and I have no idea what I’m going to get. Most of the time, I roll snake eyes 一 one roll after another. It baffles me to think how easy it was to meet and date when I was in high school, or even shortly after.
I started wondering if there was a real reason why it’s become harder to date now, compared to then.
HuffPost concludes that as we age, our dating preferences change due to many factors, making dating increasingly difficult and narrow. Factors such as changing our priorities as we take on more responsibilities or discovering “red flags” as we gain experience from our past relationships or dates make our needs and desires clearer, ultimately narrowing our pool. potential suitors.
Even more perplexing is Mark Manson’s angle, “It’s Complicated: Why Relationships and Dating Can Be So Difficult.” Here, Manson dives into the depths of why dating can be difficult, connecting how the “emotional maps” formed during our teenage years develop into adulthood. Not everyone has discovered their emotional maps or boundaries: what needs to be filled in and what needs to be corrected.
As sincerely as I can say, enjoy your time dating. This can get tricky as you get older and discover the limited number of candidates who may be perfect for the job. Expect the unexpected, but have fun.