Woman whose online correspondence found her on LinkedIn asked to report harassment
A woman has revealed how a stranger on a dating app found her on LinkedIn – using only her first name and second initial after they matched on a dating app.
The singleton, who lives in the UK, explained that she only exchanged a few messages with a match on Bumble when asked for her first name, and used the limited information to search for her on the platform professional networking.
She said the man then started contacting her at work despite telling him the LinkedIn request made her uncomfortable, leading him to accuse him of “low behavior”.
After revealing that the man used his own work email to send the message, many Mumsnet users accused him of harassment and advised the woman to contact his human resources department.
However, others have said he has the right to message her on the work site after she blocks him on the dating app.
A woman, who lives in the UK, has accused a man of harassment for contacting her on multiple platforms after correspondence on a dating app (file image)
Posting on Mumsnet, the woman explained that the man found her on LinkedIn using only her first name, then started contacting her at work.
The woman admitted that the experience had discouraged her from giving her name in the future.
She wrote: âI matched someone online last week on Bumble. I don’t use my name on my profile but only my initials.
âWe had a few nice messages and he asked me my name and I only told him my first name. I then get a LinkedIn request, which made me weird. I didn’t message him for a day, then he texted me asking if I was starting to ignore him.
âI said no, busy with my family. I then texted him a few days later to tell him that I was uncomfortable that he had sent me a LinkedIn request based on so little information.
âAnyway, he just texted me at work saying ‘thanks for the low demeanor wish you the same.’ It’s from his work email.
“I know there is nothing I can do but be vigilant and not give my name in the future, but I just wanted to share my experience.”
Numerous replies to the post advised the woman to report the man to the human resources department at her workplace and to Bumble
Many responses to the post advised the woman to report the man and agreed that it was inappropriate to contact her on multiple platforms.
One person wrote: “This is awful he already has a completely legitimate way of talking to you on the dating app. You are still talking so the only reason to go out is to prove some sort of power or control.
âHe wasn’t trying LinkedIn because your jobs are similar and for professional reasons. He wants you to know that he can find more information about you, email you at work.
âShow yourself and who knows. It exceeds the mark for a big time. If you wanted him to know this information, you would in time.
Another said: “Contact his HR and contact Bumble. This is a huge privacy issue. No more emails from him, please ask your job to change your email address. It doesn’t sound right. at all.
Other responses to the thread argued that the man did not harass the woman unless he continued to try to contact her
However, others defended the man, writing, âDid I miss something here? You’ve met someone on a dating app and sent multiple messages. You gave him your first name.
âIt then sends a LinkedIn request that you ignore. He messages you to ask if you ignore him, you answer “no” and message him several days later to tell him that you don’t like the LinkedIn request. He’s sending you an arrogant little email.
âHow is this harassment going? You have received a LinkedIn request, 1 message and 1 email. Don’t contact your employer just because they emailed you from their work email address. It’s weird! ‘
Another commented, “Don’t you think the guy has the right to be able to respond after blocking him?” I think he should be able to answer you to explain his actions. He found your e-mail online in the public domain.
âYou allowed this information to be available to him. He didn’t do anything wrong. The harassment will depend on whether it continues to message you from now on.
The woman’s experience encouraged others to share their own bizarre online dating encounters.
âA guy I messaged with started using a specific nickname that only one friend uses for me when he comments on FB photos. So I knew he found me on FB – strict privacy settings but comments on profile pictures visible.
“When I ended the discussions shortly after that and certainly right after he told me he knew we would be together and nothing would ever come between us” not even God or death “He then emailed me at work and sent flowers to my workplace,” one wrote.
The post racked up comments from other singletons claiming they had unwanted experiences on dating apps